The stress and the anxiety hit its absolute peak around
three weeks after her birthday. She was panicking every single day, she was
showering three times a day in fear of flesh eating bacteria and she was
becoming obsessive with how many steps it took her to get to uni. It would be a
bad day if it wasn’t 632 steps. She was so scared and so on edge. She sat down
in her classes and refused to look or talk to anyone. She threw herself into
her assignments to the point where she would be doing twelve hour days but
still her grades didn’t improve. That was when the self doubt set in.
And all she kept doing was smiling and laughing and trying
to pretend that their was no fear in her heart and no paranoia rattling around
in her brain where in fact these two feelings had become daily companions, much
like her shadow, they were something she couldn’t escape unless she was in
complete darkness.
To her, fear and anxiety were the same. She was anxious
about something so therefore she feared it. She feared something so therefore
it made her anxious. The doctor had prescribed her pills however she fear
taking them, she feared they would take over her mind and stop her from being
herself. All he kept asking was ‘are you taking your pills?’. Maybe he should
have asked ‘why don’t you want to take your pills?’.
Eventually she refused to leave bed. She spent four days
lying in bed on her laptop watching pointless, shitty fox comedies that made
her cringe but she loved getting wrapped into their beautiful world which
seemed to lack danger. The real world had so much danger and so much stress and
it all screamed so loudly at her. She just wanted to break through the static
and find the truth. ‘The truth’ was her obsession. She craved it, all around
her was lies and betrayal, and it was so easy to lie! How could you know if
someone was lying! How did you know???? She lied to him, told him she was fine
then she told him she was sick but with a tummy bug. He came around the day she
told him she was sick and lay in bed and they watched shitty comedies together
and he asked how her tummy was. Somehow this simple lie allowed her to leave
bed the next day. It was just a tummy bug. That’s all she told people. They
made sympathetic noises and gave her copies of their notes. How easy it was for
her to hide the truth. Everyone must hide their truths. This is called being an
‘adult’.
Hide the fact that you are missing someone.
Hide the thoughts.
Hide the feelings.
Hide it all.
Hide who you are.
And then all she could think about was what kind of truths
were people hiding? So she focussed, really focussed on others, she watched how
they talked, how they walked, how they held their pens, how they did their
hair. Nothing gave them away. That was until she started talking, opening up a
little about her own truth. First she told the older girl that she had panic
attacks. “Oh, my brother had that before he came out of the closet”. Second she
told her work friend that she had lost her best friend in a car accident two
years before. “My little sister passed away from meningitis when she was six”
she replied.
The truth wasn’t so much needed in day to day life but
rather it was more the truth of an identity, the truth behind why they talked
that way, walked that way, held their pens that way and did their hair that
way. All these past events could stay hidden away but would always be a
personal truth, a defining feature, the one thing you held back until you
trusted someone. She had to learn that, she had a few truths that she needed to
learn to keep closer to her rather than broadcasting them. That was called
being an adult.
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